I went to pick up Nathan, my "NT" 9-year-old, from school yesterday, and he said something kind of strange.
He said, "I was at recess today, and a kid who I've never seen before in my life came up to me and asked me my name. I did something which I believe was the right thing to do. I said to him, 'Can I be sure it's safe for me to trust you?'"
I waited for the punch line. Well, there was none. He had said that to the kid, and the kid walked away. I told him that if a kid on the playground comes and asks his name, the kid is reaching out, and wants to see if you can be a playmate. It would have been good for Nathan to give him his name.
We are not a very social family, I admit. We're pretty extreme introverts, and don't really know anyone. So that would explain why he's not a social butterfly, I suppose. But I don't think we ever gave him any reason to mistrust kids on the playground. So I wonder where that came from.