OK....Jeez. I'm in a tail spin today! Yesterday my H was complaining about sitting in traffic and all the driving he does back and forth to work, how long it takes blah, blah, blah. I had just come from a Dr. appt with my daughter who is 6 and had to have warts frozen off her finger. It was very traumatic and painful for her. As I was listening to him complain I thought you drove more than half way across the city for two months in traffic to get "some" from your OW but somehow that was worth sitting in traffic? That was worth the drive and aggravation and now here I am sitting listening to how you have to endure traffic day in and day out to get to and from work??? This from a man who will drive an extra few miles to save a few cents on gas? REALLY!!! Some days I just can't take it. It's been 4 months since I discovered his A and I'm doing the best I can to deal with the daily horror and he's upset about traffic??? I exploded on him this morning over it, told him how I felt and instead of just supporting me and understanding the outburst he got angry and said how can you associate that with the A? Doesn't he get that everything seems to be associated with the A. Damn him and damn all of those spouses who cheat!!! Need a some words of wisdom to calm me down. Today I want to run as far away from this horrid mess as I can. Then I think about my little girl, 14 years of marriage, over 20 years together, what divorce would be like, having to "share" my little girl etc. What to do????