I am really frustrated with myself lately because my super LL is aggravating the best relationship I've ever had. What's most frustrating is that I am definitely not always LL, just usually. I know this is extra-frustrasting for my partner because I was fairly HL when we starting dating, and he knows my history of being "slutty" (which usually happens only when I am in an emotionally awful place. I explained this to him but I am not sure if he understands). I still have times here and there when I really want to have sex, but he wants to like eight times more often at least. Its the times that I am really into it that he wants, though, and we both get disappointed quickly if I try to just go along with it when I'm not feeling it.
Lately I'm not feeling it, at all, ever. I know I can go months at a time without wanting sex (and even finding it uncomfortable and anxious), but I don't feel it is fair to him.
I have no idea why my body goes back and forth like this. Is this normal? Am I right to find it unfair to my partner?
Please, if anyone has any ideas on how to get myself back into a high or at least reasonable libido which I know is possible, let me know.