Oh boy. Loooooong meeting at school with new ASN teacher, ASN manager and ASD outreach worker. Some positive stuff (new laptop and accommodations over timed tests, more help with group work, ASN teacher going to help with PE and social clubs, ASD worker going to do some structured training for his classmates).
But oh oh oh we got nowhere over homework. I'm supposed to get him a folder to help keep him organised. That's IT. I went over why it takes him three times longer than everyone else. Turns out half his homework is written in his diary, half is on the school internet (which he doesn't even know how to use). How am I supposed to keep track of *that*? I asked them if it was reasonable for a 12 year old boy to be spending 2-3 hours a night on homework. They agreed it wasn't. So now we at least have them writing down in his diary how long each task is supposed to take. Grrrrrrrrrr.
I hate this *soooo* much. Every evening is a fight. We have to turn the TV off, which makes the little ones mad, because Euan can't concentrate if there is any noise in the house. I have to sit with him like a dragon keeping him on task. We have constant fights because he gets worked up about how to do stuff the right way for the teacher and I am not the teacher so how would I know??
I know that every NT kid in the world can come home, sit down with their books for 30 mins, race through a page of homework, then run off and play. Parents feel like their kid is doing extra work, getting ahead, they are helping....the school feels like it is proving it has taught the kids something, the kids learn to organise their time and work independently. I get that. But homework is none of these things for Euan, it is just an complete PITA. Every so often there'll be some topic work that he's put his heart and soul into and blow everyone away with his depth of knowledge and detail and confidence. Then he's pleased and I'm pleased and his teachers are over the moon. But most of the time it isn't like that, most of the time it is just endless fights and tears and losing things and snooty letters...
I am going to start an Anti Homework Club. Who's in?
Kirsty, mum to Euan (12, Aspergers Syndrome) Rohan (7, NT) and Maeve (4, NT)