I have been lurking for a while and I guess I should introduce myself. My name is Becca and I have 3 boys. My oldest is 9, has had 2 heart surgeries and has an anxiety disorder, pica, and sensory integration Dysfunction. My youngest is 5 and has an Arnold Chiari Malformation. My middle is the one we think may have Aspergers.
DS 2 is 7 and has always been a bit different. He could identify his letters at 18 months with no instruction at all, just TV. He could sing in tune very early, and we now know he has perfect pitch. He has always been kind of different. Very proper in his speech, choosing a subject or toy to focus on, and socially awkward. We've also seen some very sensory things from him like stopping abruptly at disney world many times and feeling the floor, walls, or whatever else seemed interesting (this past summer). After that I noticed hand flapping for several weeks, though he seems to have stopped that. There are lots of other things. I think he's at the very mild end but I really do wonder. I started thinking about it early in the summer but we had our hands full with Getting his older brother diagnosed with his difficulties, and DS 2 just didn't seem as critical.
DS 1 started going to a therapist for his anxiety. On the first day of therapy I had to bring all 3 boys with me. DS 2 played with legos and got distressed that a piece was missing. Then he wanted to go outside with his older bro to see the animals (the therapist has a farm). While we were waiting for DS 1 to return DS 2 pinched his finger. He cried about it for about 1/2 hour. The therapist offered a bandaid but he didn't want the one she offered, he wanted one from our van. Then we had the chance to all go see the horses and he refused, wanting to stay by the van instead.
The next session she asked me about him, whether we'd thought about Aspergers. I did a questionnaire and he's fully within the range for his behaviors. His teachers don't notice anything like that at school. He interacts with one other child who is much like him. His interactions seem very normal with that one child, but he doesn't seek out others. He doesn't say hi to friends that we see when we're out unless he's prompted to do so. He's very much a loaner and has very imaginitive solo games that he plays. So I'm not really sure if he has it or not.
Thanks for reading this, I look forward to learning from all of you as we figure out what's goign on with him.