If I really think about it, my problems with DD started when she was about 3, I guess. At that age, it's easy to dismiss as normal toddler behavior. When she was 4, we started getting calls from the Pre-K teacher and director on a weekly basis. They were having the same problems with her at school as I was having with her at home. Again, easily dismissed because I thought she was having pending issues with a divorce that took place when she was 2 and a lack of involvement on her Father's part. Kindergarten, repeated calls from teacher about DD's behavior and defiance, rudeness, talking back, refusing to follow directions or accept correction at home or school. They recommended that I have her evaluated. In all this time, I would get mad at the school or either feel like I was doing something horribly wrong with her. Maybe I didn't love her enough. Maybe I didn't discipline her well (at least that's what my own parents told me).
Now, we're in the 1st Grade. We just moved across the country to be closer to family for more support with her and our other children. I made the decision to send her to private school thinking that the more personal attention is what she needed. We actually went a full month with zero phone calls and I thought she was doing very well....until a couple of weeks ago. Her teacher called me to say DD had been sent to the principal's office. They have apparently been having problems daily and weekly with DD's behavior and have been unable to correct it. They threatened expulsion if she continued to be a disruption to the other students. :::::sigh:::::
Unfortunately, our insurance doesn't kick in at DH's new job until Feb. 1. I've always dismissed the possibility of ADHD with the thinking that it was a cop out for teachers, parents, doctors. I finally started doing some research on my own after feeling utterly exhausted, frustrated, and at the end of my rope with her behavior. I now feel like I may have been wrong in stereotyping all along and have done her a horrible injustice by thinking we could handle this on our own.