Me and my husband got together when we were very young with no sexual experience at all. Sex was always very vanilla and that was fine but since then I've learned a lot more information and want to up the passion levels. The thing is, my husband is very much a prude and not very confident in the bedroom to start with so anything outside vanilla is very challenging to him. Sometimes I feel like telling him to 'man up' a bit in that area but I wouldn't do so. I know it is me that has changed, not him, and while I'm trying to introduce some things that he has welcomed (things I can do for him) I wish he would reciprocate or do something different, push the boundaries a bit. I'm living a very active fantasy life but starting to lose a bit of interest in the real thing. How should I handle this difference? I suppose I can just accept vanilla?