A little background...my 3 year old DS does not have a DX but we've had several therapists mention "autistic-like characteristics". He is very verbal with a large vocabulary but is overwhelmed in social settings and tends to go off on his own. He is also very "bossy" with adults and aggressive with peers.
DS currently attends a community preschool but I do not feel settled about it. His teachers feel overwhelmed by him and one teacher in particular seems to be very set in her old-school ways which often causes a butting of heads between her and DS (and me). She goes so far as to roll her eyes when I suggest ways to handle DS in certain situations. She has also been very negative about therapists who have observed DS in his school setting.
Knowing this isn't a great fit for DS and I, I've begun the search for a new school. I feel awful about pulling him out of a place he is now comfortable in because he has no idea they are not meeting his needs, but I feel it's best.
Ok, now my question...what should I be looking for in a preschool?? Therapists say structured is best but structured and therapeutic preschools all seem to be either subsidized or way our of area and in southern CA it is just not feasible to commute to a preschool more than 15 miles away. It could take an hour to get there! How can I compromise but still feel good about DS's success? Is it the teachers? The curriculum? The ratio? Any help would be appreciated. :)