I am friends on facebook with my grandmother's adopted daughter, S-----. She is 16 and developmentally disabled. She has a dificult time distinguishing between fantasy and reality. She lives in TX and I live in WA.
A few weeks ago I started noticing comments on her profile and her photos fron a new guy, K----. In one comment he called her his woman. At first I didn't think much of it, because she has had online relationships with boys her age in the past. Then I went to his profile. He is 34. He lives in PA, thank god for that at least, but still. I emailed him through facebook and asked him what he was doing talking to a 16 yr old like that. He responded and said that she told him she was 29. You'd have to be a moron to believe that because she looks 13 still, and has recent photos of herself at high school events. It became clear to me that this guy is not playing with a full deck either. He asked me if I was going to stop her from being with him, and I told him I'd get the rest of the family and the police involved if I had to. He said he'd leave her alone.
I called my mom in Alaska that night to let her know about all of it. She talked to her mom's husband about it. They are both in their 80's and her mom is completely senile. Her husband said "well, S----- said that you're never supposed to give your real age out on facebook..." and basically did nothing. Then yesterday I got an email from S----- wanting to know if I had told K---- not to talk to her or I'd call the police. She told me to leave him alone, that he is 19 and her boyfriend (I've seen this guy's pictures. There's no way he's 19, and that goes against the story he gave me anyway). I looked at her profile today and they are now listed as "engaged."
I really don't know where to go from here. My mom is concerned but she doesnt use facebook and she lives even farther away than I do. We have no other family in TX. I'm not really close to S-----, and I'm afraid anything I say to her is just going to make her more determined to do what she wants to. Should I go to the police? If I did, which city/state would have jurisdiction?