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sk3035 [1]
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4th month running ..
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Sun, 04-10-2011 - 7:03pm

Hi,

We found each other through a website and added each other on facebook.We live in different states...about 3 hours drive away.

We chatted on facebook for 3-4 days and then he started pushing me for my phone number because he wanted to talk to me and did not want a pen pal. I was not too comfortable giving him my number.. I live with my parents and told him that I don't comfortable talking in their presence and that I would move back to my place in 2 months and then we can talk on phone. He needed repeated assurance on this fact.

He also suggested that we chat on yahoo/msn and I didn't see any harm. From the day that we connected on IM, he wanted to chat with me every night. Some days I made excuses, other days I was busy and chatted with him on the rest.

We started texting each other every day. He calls me "sexy", "hottie", "buddy", "dude" ... we have exchanged some of our fantasies like how it would be if we were in the same state and walking aimlessly in the evening. He has always initiated the texting ... I have maybe 3-4 times in these 3 months.

We crack jokes, pull each other's legs, have a laugh, share a bit of what's going on in our lives.

Lately, he started asking me if we would ever talk. He works in the afternoon and comes home around 9pm. I work in the mornings and am back home around 6pm.

The problem is this -

3 months have passed and I'm still with my parents. I told him this and also showed my interest in moving onto phone calls. Because of our schedules I tried to work it out by suggesting mornings/afternoons on weekends ... I could step out and talk to him. But he says that he likes to call only in the evenings after 9pm. He flat out told me that "he is not calling me in the mornings".

Considering that calling at daytime on a weekend should not be a problem since we don't lose on the minutes and it doesn't cost.

Anyhow, this was thursday. He called saturday morning but I missed the call. I sent him a message on facebook asking him what time would work for him on sunday and I would call him then. I didn't hear back on it. So, I called him early afternoon and his phone was turned off. After this, I have not called him and he is not calling me though he texts me everyday.

A guy who was pushing to get my number and told me that "he is dying to hear my voice", it's kinda weird that he would not call. I feel hurt and it seems to me that he was just using me when he was getting bored or did not have anything to do. But then he still texts me when he's at work so I don't think he's been using me. I'm so confused.

My question is why would he not call?

Since I feel hurt, I have limited my texting with him and have taken a step back. Am I right in doing so?

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