My 12 year old has ADHD and is in 6th grade. We are in our second elementary school. And, in the town where we Iive, the schools i.e. administration don't consider ADHD a disability and aren't willing to make modifications to assist him excel. Occasionally, I will have a teacher who is willing to provide information that I need, but for the most part it is a struggle. I'm told,"He needs to be responsible for remembering his assignments and tests." It is just one road block after another. Early this year, he had a very low D in math; it was almost an F. And, thankfully, the teacher was willing to sit down and provide lessons plans, tests dates. I took this information to a math tutor and now my son has a very high A in math. She is the model teacher. But, she has been the only one ever to do that. I cannot understand why it is so extremely difficult for me to ask the specifics of assignments during the week, so I can make sure he learns what he needs to. I"ve been accused of "holding his hand" and today i was told by a principal that I need to push him away. One important part of needing assignments is that he needs to take a booster in the afternoon, but only if there is work to do. Two different principals have told me that teachers are busy and just don't have time to keep the pages up to date and that they certainly cannot be specific. I've pretty much given up on getting emails answered in a timely manner.
"It is the child's responsibility to do this. And, he's going into 7th grade next year, so they have lots of freedom." Where we live there are not school psychologists, or interventionist and mental health services are very limited. I see my son failing before too much longer and not being able to keep up. I'm deeply concerned about his future in education. Is it like this everywhere? They aren't even willing to do a 504 plan, because he doesn't have a physical disability. And, he doesn't qualify for an IEP, because that is only for cognitive. Do others fight this battle with schools? I"m constantly emailing and complaining because of the lack of communication and have already been labeled the bad parent. My son struggles with rebound in the evenings, too, which are so difficult on me. I"m a single mom with an absent father. Luckily, I have a job that love. However, I'm consider looking for another job in another area - hoping for a better school situation. Plus, I have no support at all.
My sister teaches in another part of the state and is constantly appalled at the things I tell her. Her school would have a psychologist who would sit down and if the parent wanted specifics about the schoolwork, they'd provide it. I'm actually considering giving up a great job to move to a better school. Has any one else faced this dillema? I even called our state department of education and was so disappointed to find out they offer little support.
One last thing, my son has a fairly high IQ, so I truly believe he has the potential to excel.