I am 23 years old and a college graduate living miles from home. I am the eldest of 4 siblings with a 7 year stretch between myself and my closest sibling. This sister just graduated high school and is going to come visit me for 2 weeks. The thing is, I am not very close to my sister. I moved out of the home and in with my grandmother at the age of 14 due to some physical and emotional abuse from my stepfather (her dad).
When my siblings and I were younger I was mean to them, partially I believe, because I was jealous that they were treated so much better than me by my step-dad and his family whom we lived very near to and were around frequently. The family never acknowledged me as being a part of the family even though my step-dad raised me. Holidays were the worst... For Christmas, that part of the family always got me terrible and cheap gifts, while would go out of their way to buy my siblings extravigant gifts. I was lucky if I even received anything from them for my birthday. I was the first person to graduate from college in my entire family including my step-dad's side. His parents gave me $20, while for my sister's hs graduation they gave her $550.
I was constantly getting in trouble for little things, while they were alowed to do anything they wanted and would often copy my step-dad in teasing me about my weight or tell me I was ugly. If I saw them doing something I had just gotten in trouble for I would emulate my step-dad and get on to them (which would usually end up with me getting a severe punishment). I did not know any better at the time.