Okay..so I know I have ranted, raved and carried on about my oldest ds who is about to turn 19 before...the last time I was here, he had moved into an undesirable living situation with friends, and I was complaining about that! Well, there are times we really should count our blessings! It really wasn't *that* bad! Hind sight really is 20 20! Now ds has met a young woman I will call *T* and *T* is four years older than ds and is divorced, living at home with her mom, and has a four year old ds. It gets even better.