I am new to this board.

I have a twenty year old son with Aspergers, who was not diagnosed as a young child, though we dragged him to various therapists, none of whom correctly understood what was going on with him.I got plenty of 'feedback' about his behaviors in the classroom from teachers but I did not know what Aspergers was and I was also most probably in denial, as in you don't understand my sweet, shy, smart, sensitive son.

Our son is very smart but barely graduated from High School due to the fact he only worked hard on the classes that interested him. He went to community college for one semester and failed everything except astronomy (which he told me it was "easy"). He went back for a second semester with good intentions but left the first week. He told me later, "nobody talks to me at school". This broke my heart.

I had started looking at this website, posted below and reading books by this brilliant woman, who works with people on the Autism Asperger Spectrum, Michelle Garcia Winner at:

http://www.socialthinking.com/ [2]

I realized my son has Apsergers, he fits the profile like a glove. I tried to explain to him about making small talk to kids at school, such as, 'how do you like this class' or 'this teacher is great, do you like him?' and his response was, "that makes me sound stupid". I also tried to teach him the importance of smiling at other people, giving social validation with a smile,