I found out in July my husband of 7 yrs was having an emotional affair with a customer of his. I help him out at the office and have his email passcode. I found a chain of emails of him flirting with this other woman, going to a concert with her sister other customers. She actually declined his request for going out to dinner stating that she had a boyfriend and she also declined 2 happy hour requests. We definitely have our issues and I am not the perfect wife but I would never act the way he did. We have an appt with a counselor next month. The was an incident also four yrs ago with a woman he meet in training with his company she lives in another state and is happily married it seemed very one sided. My H likes to flirt and the attn. He is always stating how ugly he is begging for compliments from these other women. Where I think I am crazy is that I am constantly monitoring his email and phone bill and I am almost excited when I catch him in something. It is like I am obsessed. I will be fine for weeks and all of the sudden freak out and rehash the same thing over and over again. I have a hard time forgiving anybody. I am so embarrassed I haven't told anybody. He admitted that he liked the attn and it was wrong and he has always been a flirt but never thought about how he would think if I did the same thing to a man. He is trying to change but I a firm believer that once a worm always a worm. Does anybody else get obsessed with trying to find out more I swear it just seems crazy......