So long story short. (first, wow been long time since been on IV! Die hard expecting board member but didn't like the new changes).
Anyways. I'm married 9 years, mom of 4 kids (3 boys and a girl). Dh and I have had up/downs like all marriages. Ours usually start with his lies. He lies about smoking and drinking. And every often I find out about it, we go to therapy. he says he quits, stupid me believes him til the next time. This has been going on our entire marriage! Caught him smoking and hiding it (our 7yo caught him!)