I know it's really early, since I'm only 13 weeks, but I have trouble making up my mind, and so I can't even discuss it with my Dr.
I had an epi with Fede and although things are back to normal by now, I really hated it. A stitch opened wich bled a lot, totally freaked me out, and as a result, I had truble going #2 for months. DTD was painful for several months too.
On the other hand, a close friend had a 3rd degree tear with her first (granted it was a 9 p. baby) and from what she tells me, my episiotomy discomfort was a walk in the park compared tot he healing of her tear.
1- Did you tear/had an episiotomy during delivery?
2- (If you tore) How bad was it?
3- (both)Did you heal well?
4-If you didn't suffer either, what do you think was the reason?
5-What would you do next time?