I've posted on other boards (and here, a long time ago) but here is the quick background.
Me: Divorced 6 years, 2 adult kids, 50-something, ten years away from retirement age.
Him: Widower 3--almost 4-- years. just turning 60 this year, 3 adult kids, 2 years away from early retirement.
He can afford to retire early (though medical insurance will pose a challenge).