This is gonna be a long one... It's my daughter's friend who's doing it.
She has been since I've known her in the 1st grade. My daughter has been with her 5 best friends since the 1st grade and this girl is one of them. They are all now between the ages of 14 and 15. It is and was well known that this girl has had a problem with telling stories, playing the victim for attention. In the last 2 years, I thought she'd changed, gotten better and my daughter has become closer to her. Last week she spent a few days here while her mother and stepdad were away and she told me a horrible story that was hard to believe but at the same time who's to say ...if it's real or not. She told me not to tell her mom, obviously, because her mom has enough problems. She also told me her mom left her no money, so she borrowed from me and said she'd bring the money to school (last) Monday. Yesterday her mom called me ... (her mom is one of the sweetest people I know...a people pleaser, caretaker)... she was asking me for parenting advice because the girls watched the Exorcist over the weekend. They watch scarey movies every weekend and since then this girl hasn't been able to sleep and needed her mom and stepdad to lie down with her until she fell asleep. I gave her advice on what to do, she took it and everything worked out great...slept through the night.
I spoke to her mom again today and as much as I hated to, I asked if her daughter had mentioned that she borrowed money from me to go out over the weekend. She told me she had plenty of money and doesn't know why she enjoys playing the victim and that 5 years of therapy have done nothing for her...she is still lying and playing the victim for people to feel sorry for her.
OK...so now, of course as soon as this girl left last week, I sat my daughter down. My daughter is a very logical kid. I told her to have an open mind and I was very careful to tell her how I felt and wanted her to be careful and take things she says with a grain of salt. My daughter's reaction was that she knew I was going to talk to her about it and that she is aware of what's going on and she is taking things with a grain of salt.