Ok, they both suck, but I was thinking about this in regards to what I'm going through right now.
Cheating is devastating and I wouldn't wish it on anyone - even those who have cheated on me.
However, right now it's the lies that are really tearing me up. I think it's because the lying doesn't allow you to make good decisions about yourself and your family.
For example, when my H lied (by omission and later directly) about what happened in April we were actually going through the process of buying a second house and turning our first into a rental. We were both excited and the process went well, but also has left us tight on money and more tied down than ever. We really can not afford to live in two households right now. If he had told me THE TRUTH, I don't know what I would have decided, but at least I could have made a decision based on what was really going on.
I just hate, hate, hate the lying, lying, lying.
That's all I have to say about that!