In the past my husband has had issues with having to be the center of attention. If I didn't give him attention he seeked affirmation through online communications and telephone calls. He has not had a physical affair that I know of and he doesn't have unusual unaccounted periods of time where he could. I told him this last time was it. I couldn't take it anymore.
3 years ago, my 2 year old and I travelled half the country to take care of his terminally ill mother (He couldn't leave his job in the military to go). While I was taking care of her I found that he was talking to another woman because he wasn't the center of my attention. Then this past summer I visited my parents and my mother go word that the lump on her shoulder may have been cancer and if it was it was too late to do anything (off topic....what doctor would say such a thing before knowing for sure!) Well he did it again. So I have been shut off emotionally and physically from him for 2 months while he worked on proving to me that he could respect me and the marriage. He is sleeping in the spare room.
This weekend I found out that his female cousin gave him her best friends telephone number and they have been texting back and forth. At first he tried to tell me