In the past several years, I've been having the worst luck with dating. My last real relationship where there was mutual love ended 8 years ago and essentially, I've been single since then with some "boyfriends" every now and then. I say "boyfriends" because there's been something dysfunctional with all of them, the dysfunction being that they didn't love me they way I needed to be loved. Just to give some examples, the last guy repeatedly told me he loved me and asked that I do the same even though he saw no future with me and couldn't even make time once a week to see me. The guy before him loved being with me but also so no future. The guy before him told me he would never love me and didn't believe in marriage only to turn around and ask me to marry him...after I left him and the country. And he still maintained that he didn't believe in love. The guy before that saw no future with me either because we were different ethnicities and his parents didn't approve. Do I need to go on? I met all these guys by chance without looking. I just went out on a couple of nice dates with a guy I met by chance in a coffee shop, and he has been basically remaining distant. He has been hinting about having sex and I guess I've just been kind of ignoring those hints and he gave up? I'm 34 and I'm beginning to lose hope. Plenty of men want to date me but most of the time, they want sex with no substantial relationship. They start kissing me in public places like coffee shops and bars on the 1st and 2nd date. Is this normal? I have no clue anymore because it happens all the time. If I do end up dating them for some time, they don't introduce me to the people in their lives and I don't feel their love. I'm attractive sweet, smart, funny, personable (or so I've been told) and have goals I'm working on every day. I look for the same in a man. I don't look for money. He just has to have a job (any job) and treat me right. I don't chase men and I just let them come to me. If it helps any, I live in NYC. It's terribly hard to find a man here who is looking for a relationship. It just feels like looking for a diamond in a minefield. Is my situation normal or am I just having a string of bad luck?