I had suspected 8 months ago that my husband of 11 months was carrying on an inappropriate relationship with a co-worker. I found text and a hand written note from her. I confronted both of them and got the response that they are just friends, that I'm crazy, and insecure. None the less my husband assured me that he would not speak to her anymore because nothing was worth risking our relationship. My husband is a doctor and the woman worked directly under him. Against my better judgement I tried to believe him. I did not ever see another text or call to or from her on his phone. I had no actual proof and I wanted to believe him, although we fought almost every day when he'd leave for work. That was the only thing we fought about. He assured me that I had nothing to worry about. The woman sent me a message on Facebook in September telling how much I look like a full that while I'm "pretending" to the world on fb how great my life and marriage is, that I in fact have no clue what's going on in my marriage. After that blow up fight about that, he changed his schedule to no longer work with her... Still assuring me that she's crazy. Well a week ago tonight I pulled up his cell phone records for the past year and found out that they text each other about 100+ times a day and had been since before we got married and ended the day she emailed me. I don't know how I missed it. My husband is 39, I am 30, the OW is 43. Not to be concieted but I am fairly attractive, I'm a good wife, take care of our 5 boys while works all the time, and have sex with him AT LEAST 3 times a day, EVERY DAY. When I presented him the phone records, he sticks with they were just friends- she was nice. We never fought about anything except his "relationship" with her. I'm so lost, so angry, so hurt, and never felt more betrayed. He insists they were only friends and he's sorry he ever knew her. He doesn't seem to think he owes me an explanation past that. From September til last week our marriage has been damn near perfect, but what about the previous 9 months? I don't know what to think, what to feel, or what I'm suppose to do.... Any words of wisdom, advice, help would be greatly appreciated. I don't want don't want my family ripped apart but I don't know IF I can get past this... Please help :(