So now I've learned there was a second girl. This one lives 2 hours away and he is a client of hers. He said it was only via phone, and that he pursued her and she was resistant, though they still had conversations about sex and what she liked and he told her all the things he would do to her. I want to barf as I write this. I am not 100% clear but it seemed he was trying to get her to have phone sex but she wouldn't go that far? I am still not sure. OF COURSE, just like the other girl that he actually slept with, I had a bad feeling about this woman from the f'n start. I don't know why I didn't trust my gut more. I think there may be more than just these two but he seems to only be able to tell me a little bit of the the truth at a time.
How many of you are working to repair after several OW? I feel that this is an impossible task. And now this is no longer about me and the pain he has caused. It's about "what is wrong with him?". I am a mess. Please help me and tell me what you have done to get through this. I can't stop shaking.