I am in my late 40's and coming up on 30 yrs. of M. For the last several years I have been so happy thinking that our relationship is the best it's ever been. I have had some medical problems and due to hormone issues, intercourse is extremely painful and I bleed every time (I've been working with a Dr. but no success so far). I never deny my husband other ways of pleasing him and he's been very supportive and tells me he doesn't feel deprived.
On our second day of a two week family vacation I was on his computer and found the browsing history (he's only had it one month) was full of Myredbook.com ads for "escort" services. Most of them were in the town he works in which is about 45 min. from our home. I have never known him to be interested in porn or anything like this and I am in shock. I was up until 3:30 am this morning trying to figure out this site but it looks like you have to be a VIP paying member to access the area's he was looking at.
I must have said something to tip him off that I know because the very next morning he erased all his suspicious browsing history and told some family members that *someone* had been looking at porn on his computer, which is stupid because the computer had always been in plain site of everyone and the browsing dates went back to when he first got his computer. So, he is clearly trying to cover his tracks.
I am now finding myself weighing my options, I know for a fact if I confront him on just this with no evidence he will deny, deny, deny. I am trying to figure out how to find out for sure, do I hire a PI, install spy ware on his computer, make him take a lie detector test? My head is spinning, I have planned to spend the rest of my life with this man and now my future seems so uncertain as I know I cannot live with a man who can do this to me.
BTW, I gave up a career to raise our now adult children and now I have Fibromyalgia so any job prospects are bleak. Any thoughts or suggestions on how I can find out for sure?