This past Friday, I found some emails in my partners email inbox on his ipad (that we share) from a woman’s name that I didn’t recognise. I went looking for these emails, this wasn’t an accident that I found them. Something had been wrong between my partner and I for a few days... since New Years Eve. I’ve been cheated on a few times in previous relationships, so I know the signs to look out for. So these emails were initiated by him with a simple ‘hello how are you?’ and he was greeted with a reply with flirting, lots of kisses and smiley faces and asking how he has been and his new year celebrations. Conversation leads to being inappropriate by my partner asking if she is at the beach in her bikini and eventually he asks for a photo after much encouragement from her. She says she’ll let him know when she is back in town and will try to send a photo later. She never does. My timing was perfect because I could watch it real time on the ipad while he replied on his iphone (same account linked to both). As he would reply I could see that he was deleting the emails from his inbox. Deleting the evidence. I call him immediately and tell him what I’ve seen happen in front of me. I’m greeted with no hostility and complete admittance of what he has done and profuse apologies. We had a few difficult public arguments over the past few days and he claims that he wasn’t thinking and wanted some positive attention from an old work colleague that he used to flirt with as our relationship was currently tense. He is also currently suffering from depression due to his career and claims that his head isn’t on straight. He has been suffering for about 3 months. We have had previous conversations about betrayal and how it is a deal breaker for me. He claims (promises/swears/whatever) that he did not and has not ever slept with her or anyone else. Even when I said I could contact her to ask her. I asked him to get her to email me and tell me herself and he said he’d rather I email her so I know he hasn’t got to her first and told her what to say. I decided not to, because I’m better than that. We have been together for a year and we live together. He has never stopped talking about future plans. Is home every night on time, always answers his phone, always invites me out with his friends. We’re basically together 24/7 apart from at work. He has obviously promised not to do it again and said he will ignore all contact from her. I’ve told him that he should actually reply and say that he is in a relationship and to not contact him anymore. I have received the usual... tears, begging not to leave, that he wants to be with me only and it was an honest moment of bad judgement and that he’ll do ANYTHING... blah blah. I’ve just been there... done that. What would you do if you were me?