hello all!! i havent been on this board in forever-but ive been trying to get back in the groove of things and was on this board before...i want to ask others opinions...i might get a lil lengthy and if i do i apologize...my dh and i have been married for a lil over 12 years. for the last 2 years, weve been in a euchere card playing club. there's 6 "couples" that meet once a month and play cards. each month we alternate and each "couple" hosts twice a year. (couple is in quotes cuz it isnt always a romantic couple-we had 4 married couples, one father and dd and 2 "bachelors". one of the bachelors is a priest)anyway, after 2 years, the team had to be revamped. on saturday we were revamping it-and one of the women-k-announces that her dh wont be playing anymore. i was kinda bummed cuz i really like her dh. he one of the district managers at the store where i work-actually he got me the job in the first place...and i like to talk to him and ill be honest-flirt with him a lil. it doesnt bother my dh-at least he never said it did. and he really likes k's company-shes really into sports, football especially-and they always talk about their fantasy teams and the like. anyway, i asked why her dh wouldnt be playing anymore and she told me its a long story...later on, she confided in me that her dh actually filed for divorce in september and moved out last week. this saddens me cuz theyve got 3 kids...and i always thought they were pretty solid in their marriage-i guess you just never know. i really feel bad for everyone in this situation cuiz its got to be hard to start over-theyve been married for awhile-their oldest dd is 13 and im pretty sure they were married when they had her...so im guessing theve been married at least 14 years, probably longer. anyway, whats bugging me is this comment she made off hand back in august. it kinda bothered me a bit when she said it, but i figured she was married and nothing would come of it...anyway, we were coming back from one of the card nights and she had caught a ride with us(were also neighbors-we lived around the block from each other). her dh was out at the bar and didnt come with us. when we got into the neighborhood, it was 12:30-and i mentioned that maybe her dh would be home waiting for her. she laughed and said "not likely" and my dh chimes in with "yeah-hes the type that has to close down the bar..." so i say "oh...well, i dont have much experience with that-i dont drink much and neither does randy.we dont do the bar scene..." shes quiet for a minute and then says "you know i wish i was married to you randy..." my dh kinda laughed it off and said "oh...you wouldnt want to be married to me-im a jerk..." and i kinda just chuckled-inside i wanted to choke her. she didnt apologize-she didnt try to reword it-she just left it hanging there. she got out of the car and my dh asked me why she said something like that. and i told him "because you are different than her dh. you go to work and you come home and youre home. you do things with the kids, you do things with me-d(her dh)doesnt do that kind of stuff. thats all she meant..." inside i was still upset but i was trying not to let it bother me. well, i was talking to 2 of my coworkers and i told them about these 2 splitting up and how it was very sad to me. then i told them about the comment she made...and the one said "and youre not concerned?" me: "should i be??" her: "well, i wouldnt want someone saying that about my dh...especially someone you have to worry about now cuz she'll ne a free agent..." my other coworker says "no, i dont think she has to worry. randys a good guy and as long as she trusts him, she shouldnt worry..." then shes quiet for a second and comes back out with "although, he IS a guy and guys do stupid things all the time..." i DO trust my dh and i know he doesnt find this woman all that attractive-he says he likes to talk sports with her and shes like "one of the guys." but she isnt a guy and shes not ugly-shes not bad looking, imo. and shes gonna be alone and vulnerable...and my dh loves kids and he loves to be the white knight and swoop in and help people...yes i trust him and i trust her-to an extent. but your opinion? should i be concerned?????