Im opening this post up again as the friend who had the party thought is was absolutely fine for all of us to pay and so the party went ahead and its now well and truly forgotten. Anyway, she mentioned to me the other day that someone who didn't come to the party SHOULD have still bought her a gift as she WAS invited. I am sure she was HINTING that I STILL haven't bought her a gift, and now she is very COOL with me. I mean, for goodness sake, I have spent years supporting her antics and being there on a practical level for her ( when she moved recently I was the one friend who went round and helped her clean up the old place and move boxes etc) and I have always tried my best to help her.. And now because of a stupid gift that I refuse to buy for her, she is so cool and uninterested any more. I feel like cutting her out of my life altogether.. She is always looking for more and more things to have rather than realizing that these things are meaningless.
Sorry to rant/ vent, just needed to get that out.