I'm nearly 19, I have a 2 and a half year old son, I live with my boyfriend/son's father. We both work full time and I think we do really well with supporting ourselves! We've worked very hard to get where we are today, and we still work hard. It's a constant struggle and what happens is childcare is too expensive. We can't pay hundreds every week to have someone watch him so my family is burdened with this. Instead of trying to see it as a good thing like yay you get some with your grandchild, I get to hear how irresponsible I am and how I've messed up our family and added so much stress and such a burden.
I admit I'm not perfect. After my son was born I did act irresponsibly more than I like to admit. I did dump him on family a lot in that first year especially. I just didn't know what I was doing and I was in denial. I got some counseling and outside help and it really helped me a lot. I've taken responsibility for my life and for my son. I rush to my grandma's after work to pick my son up, I rarely ever ask any family to watch him when I'm not working even when I very badly would love some peace and time alone or with my boyfriend. I don't ask for that except on special occasions any more. I leave him with them as little as possible. I can't help that we have to work to live.