This morning we had another incident where I got in a verbal fight with my 18-year-old son, which led to a fight between my wife and me. Early this Sunday morning, I heard some commotion downstairs in the kitchen, much earlier than normal, and heard him and a couple of his friends getting something to eat in the kitchen. I went downstairs and said something like, "Wow, you guys are up early. Are you just now getting up?" He replied that they've been out all night and just got to the house.
Since this has been going on for quite some time, I remarked, "You guys need to get in the right time zone, or move to Hong Kong." Ten minutes later, he came into my bedroom, where I was sitting at my desk and asked why I embarrassed him in front of his friends. I told him sorry, but he immediately started cussing at me, calling me a b****, using the f-word, and shooting me the middle finger. It was as though he was under some drug-induced state, but I don't think he did anything other than drink.
His mom told him, "Son, your dad just said he was sorry", but that seemed to make him madder. I stayed calm for a few minutes, but then told him to get out of my room and that I wanted his friends out. He refused still calling me names and using terrible language in front of his 11-year-old brother. There was some pushing and shoving and his Mom ended up getting in between us, but he managed to get some punches in to my back and top of my head. This was all out in the upstairs hallway.