My son is constantly getting in trouble at school for not paying attention, not following directions and wrestling in school, I have taken toys, fun weekend activities, and t.v. Away from him..everything short of spanking him. We talk to him all the time about his behavior and we have been struggling with him lying about EVERYTHING! I'm out of patience, I'm tired of being nice, I'm tired of talking until I'm blue in the face..when is enough enough and you start spanking?