Ok, I will try to make it short. Hubby was married before an has a daughter. I love her, she is actually a great kid. It frustrates me however that she really has no responsibility or sense of Respect for me. I do understand she learns from example and hubby an the ex-wife don't really respect me or my time either. They always plan things together for me to do, like i will take her to school, pick her up, take her to dr appts. an only telling me right before i need to go. I try to tell hubby to let her grow up she is 13 , will be 14 this year an we cannot leave her alone for a second, hubby wants me to go with her to the bathroom, her mom holds her hand in store, calls her 20 times a day when she stays with us an I am always given instructions to watch her baby. Just recently I have convinced hubby to give her chores while she is here. Long story short hubby tells me, always at last minute to pick her up from school, take her to doctors appt. An 3 times she has gotten rides with others and not told me, she knew I was coming. It happened again the other day. I was very busy, hubby called that morning said to pick her up, I went to school, waited over 45 min, no show, called hubby and he called her, she had caught a ride with someone else. I was pissed. I feel she has no respect for my time. I called her, she said she was aware I was coming but her aunt was there picking her daughter up an she just went with them. I explained I should have been called an not just let me just sit an wait. I did say I was angry and that she needs to learn to respect other more in the future and basically grow up and take more responsibility for herself. Her mom was mad, hubby didn't understand why I was mad, all of it pissed me off. So, I told all 3 I will not be used as the chauffeur an baby sitter anymore. So, was I wrong for yelling at her, am I wrong to feel like the 3rd wheel.