About one month ago I was using my husband computer and out of curiosity I was looking at his email. My husband is not very computer savvy so he has never realized he had to delete his sent box to get rid of mail he sends. I looked in his sent box and found 4 replies he sent to Craigslist ads for people looking for a man for their mmw threesome. I wanted to die when I saw this. We have been married for 19 years. I never thought he could do something like that to me. After confronting him on this and snooping more into is computer use, I found he had actually posted 1 add looking for a couple to try a threesome with and 2 ads looking for a woman for some fun. In one of them describing what he wanted to do. My husband swears he just did this out of curiosity and he had never even got a response from any. He swears he has never cheated on my during our marriage, but he has fantasies he knows I will never give into. He is correct, I would never have a threesome, I think it would tear us apart out of jealousy. Part of me believes him because if there was a response, it would be still on his computer because it looks like every sent email since the day he got the computer is still there.
We are going to marriage counseling and trying to make this work. My husband works Mon - Thur out of town. I worry what other things he might have done working out of town that I cannot find on his computer.