Okay so my partner and I have been together for a very long time but are new to living together. We have different opinions about what is and isn't okay when it comes to our home and what happens there. We've compromised a lot over the past couple months but there are three things we've agreed on. I mean granted they were my three things that I didn't want to budge on but she agreed to them. Then not long after I found out that when I'm not home she doesn't really care about my 'rules' and does whatever she wants. All three of those rules have been broken and she doesn't understand why I get upset. i told her it feels like a lack of respect because it is also my home and we agreed upon these things. I don't like that I can't trust her when I'm not around. I mean she thinks it isn't a big deal but I see it as a sign of something else.