I feel so guilty about posting this, but I'm very confused. My wife and I took a long time to have kids, and have two beautiful daughters and generally, have a great life. I'm 41 and 5 years younger than her. I work hard and we have become quite wealthy. She hasn't had to work for 20 years and the kids are low maintenance. I think my wife loves her lifestyle. She has little or no obligations and spends most of her time shopping for clothes for herself. She is my best friend and I adore the ground she walks on. For the past 5 years or so, she seems to have lost all interest in me. We rarely have sex, but to be honest, I can cope with that. The thing I find most upsetting is the lack of intimacy, or to put it another way, the contrast in how intimate she is with a broad group and how she is with me. For example, when we're out, she makes jokes with friends as if she's sexually frustrated, but I clealrly know she doesn't have any interest. She flirts with my friends but not with me. She tells me she loves me but when I touch her she feels uncomfortable. I don't know what to do. I love her to bits but I feel empty. I feel like giving up but I can't bear the thought of losing my kids. I feel sick just writing this. Anyone got any advice that might help?