I am 41 and my mom is 60. I dont know where to begin, but, I call my mom, but she won't call me. I have no idea why. We have always lived in the same town mostly and it's always been this way. Now if I call her and leave a message she will "calll me back", but she will never be the one to call first. Any insights here? Background: as a child she was not warm and loving. She never played with me or interacted with me much. She name called, I would say she was verbally abusive. She would call me stupid idiot, etc. so no, we were never close, we just appeared close to others. Even as an adult, one time when I was going through a divorce and had made some bad decisions she said to me "if you weren't my daughter I wouldn't have anything to do with you". After my divorce I cut off contact with her for about a year. We even worked in the same building. I don't remember how the relationship started back but it was slow- I was getting married again. Anyway, it's been "okay" for 8 years now. When I say okay I mean no real fights or anything, I just noticed that I was the onle always calling her. But get this- if I don't call her she gets mad at me. Now I have moved away, 300 miles and she has not called once to say hello or to see how we like it here. I did call her a few times after we first got here, then I decided to see how long it would take her to call. It's been 2 months. She has facebooked me and emailed me. Not to say hi or how are you- only to ask for my address!!!! Literally her email said "I need your address you forgot to give it to me" and that's it! Plus, I had given it to her, she must have lost it. Anyway, now it's getting really awkward and I'm so tired of being the only one who calls. Anybody have any advise?