I really would like some advice from people who have made it past their DDay and are still happily married. I know everyone is different but I just want to know how you handled it, the memories, the lies, etc. Its been five months since he has talked to her and is working to make our marriage better, but I cant stop thinking about it. It consumes almost every waking minute of my life and there has not been a day that has gone by that I havent cried. There are reminders of the A sprinkled everywhere. I want to move on with my husband and be happy but I cant. I keep telling myself it will happen in time, but how long is that? I am so afraid I will ruin things by my continous attcks on my H. I believe that it was my decision to stay in the marriage therefore I should give 100% of myself as well, but I hold too much resentment. Advice PLEASE!