My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and three months. We are (or, at least, were) madly in love. We had a great sex life. It was spontaneous and sexy. But recently, I've been lacking that special intimacy. I feel like sex is always about HIM. He fantasizes about other women in bed and tries to get me to join. I don't mean real people he's met in real life, but porn stars and famous people. I was okay with this at first because I thought he was just trying to introduce something new. But now, it's every time. He never focuses on me during sex. He never tries to pleasure me. I always go down on him, and he's never gone down on me once. I feel like we never connect and I feel emotionally distraught from it. I've tried confronting him about it and telling him I don't feel a connection when we have sex, but he just said that he feels connected and doesn't know how to make me feel the same. I feel like this is more LUST than LOVE. How can I fix this and how can I get him to realize what he's doing?