I am new to this board. Mother of 3 daughters. Oldest just told me she was pregnant. She has been going through difficult times for several years now and just recently told me she was raped in high school. Her boyfriend of 2 years broke up with her last fall and she considered taking her life. She has been in therapy for a couple years now and on lexapro. Then this spring a good friend of hers admitted he liked her and wanted to take her out on a date when they were both home for the summer. I was so happy to hear this because I really like him. Well, they weren't even in a steady relationship and had sex. Now she is pregnant. Both families know. When we met with him and his family I left feeling very resentful to them. Basically, he is going to study abroard fall semester ("oh he can't get out of it") and because he is so driven in school he doesn't have the time or want for a serious relationship. That was what his mother said not him. My daughter doesn't seem to have a whole lot of emotion about the situation, and I keep loosing my temper. I hate being angry at her but I am. She says this was her first time having sex, and even though it may be hard to believe to some people, I believe her. Abortion is not an option for us and I hope she gives it up for adoption. Her whole life will be turned upside down and put on hold. She is a junior in college. I won't let her live on campus this fall; however, she is fortunate she can commute. Then in the spring she will need to take time off.
I don't know how to react to her loss of emotion. Why isn't she crying? Angry? Acting scared? She knows NOTHING about being pregnant and I am constantly telling her what she can and can't do.
I am so sad, frustrated, scared and angry.