Hello-

Im new the board and am looking for any kind of answers/advice.  I just discovered a box full of women's underwear, wigs, and fake breasts in my fiance's closet.  At one point he mentioned that he liked to wear women's underwear, but I had no idea that it was this involved. 

Very quick background info.... This is only the 2nd guy I have ever slept with.  I was raped as a teenager and spent years dealing with it.  The only other guy I slept with I had a relationship for 6 years (he suddenly passed away).  So my fiance and I haven't really been involved sexually. I was dealing with grief and a sense of guilt for having moved on. That being said-I wasn't as responsive when we first had sex.  When my fiance mentioned wearing women's underwear-I made sure that I did not say anything negative or hurtful as I know this was probably I huge deal for him to confess this to me. But I wasn't as receptive as he would have liked. I tried to explain to him that having been raped and having only the sexual experience of one partner, that I would have prefered to have "normal" sex until I felt comfortable with him.  I didn't dismiss the idea of him wearing women's underwear but I didn't encourage it.

Months later and he has completely changed towards me. He completely ignores me or snaps at me if he does talk to me.  Our relationship is rock bottom and I have at my wits end trying to figure out what is going on.  Then the other day I came across this box.  I didn't know he wears wigs and fake breasts.  I know this is something he does often as twice in the last week I have come home to find he locked himself in the bedroom (he always says he has no idea how the door got shut or locked) and out of curiousity-i checked and stuff in the box has shifted.

I don't know why he does this.  What does he feel when he does this.  I don't know how I feel about this.  I wouldn't ask him to stop, but I don't know how involved I want to be.

Anybody have any advice as to what to do or what crossdressing means?

Thanks

Amy