When you make love, who usually comes first? Do you have a preference?
My DW need clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm so I usually ether stroke her with my fingers or go down on her to give her an orgasm. To orgasm during intercourse I have to give her some additional manual stimulation during.
Sometimes me first is better because she is more worked up when I get to her. If she has orgasmed first she is more laid back relaxed while we work on mine.