My husband and I have been together for over 8 years and married for 5. In the last year we've had relationship problems especially around sex. I wasn't wanting it very often because when we have it sometimes he can't climax for over an hour. Although most people might not think this is an issue it becomes a real problem when he wants to have sex once a week. I found out a few months ago he's been going on a web cam porn site and getting private shows while he shows himself to the woman on his webcam. I also found that he'd placed an ad on a discrete sex website. He swears nothing ever happened and he only did it because I wasn't wanting to have sex. We've been going to counseling but I've been afraid to bring up the porn sites for fear of embarrassing him and me. In a way I can understand that he doesn't feel his needs are being met but I feel betrayed and hurt. I have tried to have sex more often for the sake of our relationship but it's hard when I know each time sex will be over an hour. I don't know what to do anymore. I've considered divorce but worry about the amount of debt we borh and how I'll survive on my low salary. If anyone has anyone words of wisdom they would be much appreciated. I don't feel I have anyone to discuss this issue with because it's embarrassing on so many levels.