So I thought I would put this out there for debate.
For the most part we don't have many issues when it comes to dealing with the ex and his wife. We work really hard to provide a calm, non-stressed environment for our kids when it comes to co-parenting. Something happened recently that is probably not a big deal, but has really been annoying me. I'm probably over-reacting so open to hearing whatever you think.
So my son wanted these very expensive sneakers for school (over $100). I told him absolutely not, that they cost too much money for his age, especially when I'll have to replace them in 6 months. He doesn't take very good care of his clothing as it is and he's too young to be wanting expensive clothes. He was upset with me, but we settled on a nice pair of Nikes that were half the cost.
Unbeknownst to me, he told my ex and his wife about how much he wanted these sneakers and that I wouldn't buy them for him. Instead of asking me about it first, his stepmom went out and bought them for him. I'm sure she was doing it to be nice and maybe even win some points with him, but it just really irked me. She's normally not the type to go against the rules we put into place, so I"m hesitant to say anything to her or my ex. I'm pretty po'd at my son also, and am tempted to punish him for going behind my back like that so he knows it's not okay.
It's just a pair of shoes, but for some reason is just irritating me more and more. Should I say something to them about it?