Hey everyone, I’m new on this board! I’m going crazy over a guy I started seeing and I think my judgment is being clouded by hormones ! I would really appreciate any opinions regarding him being into me and more so: am I really into him ???
I have been in a very unhappy and unhealthy relationship for ten years with a guy 15 years older than me. I was 26 he 41 when we met. He lost his job, bounced between several others and became unemployed the last time in 2008. The relationship turned bad about 3 years ago when he started taking pain pills, he also drinks heavily and there are other factors … but since he is out of work, I continue to enable him and tell myself he isn’t so bad to live with and eventually he will find work and I will be able to break away with a clean conscience (I know it is enabling, I am not in denial, I just dont have the heart to throw him out with no income). THEN as I got later into my thirties, I’m 36 now,I realized I was letting my life pass by while waiting for him to get off his lazy ass. Hes too irresponsible to marry and I'd never have kids with him (see above).
Three weeks ago my BF was away for the night and I was at a local bar. I know CHRIS since we were kids, he's 39, great job, great personality and sexy as hell. We were in a great conversation that I truly did not want to end at closing time. SO we got a six pack, hung out, ended up in bed and continue to see each other and have absolutely AMAZING CHEMESTRY. He texts me every morning when he gets up, tells me he misses me etc This weekend we were able to actually go out to dinner rather than sneek about at his apartment. I really loved being with him! We learned a lot about each other and of course talked about my “stagnant” relationship and in a lump sum he basically told me he wants to be with me, have a relationship with me, realizes Rome wasn’t built in a day and that I need time to make my move from my BF but he is convinced I’m going to do that and isn’t going anywhere in the meantime.
I CANNOT stop thinking of him. I have beenworking out like mad & running miles & miles to release this pent up energy! A male friend, who DOESNOT KNOW said I was "glowing" while talking about my house lol....I doubt that topic brought out the glow he saw. My mother , who does know about Chris & me agree I need to finally leave my “stagnant” BF and told me I “got it bad” for Chris and she thinks he feels the same. She likes him btw and though she likes my BF she pointed out to me that there will never be a future there….I’m rambling now....so help me out:
Is Chris into me? Am I clouded by crazy sexually charged hormones? Or could I have finally found what I havn’t had with my BF through all of these unhappy years of struggling with him.