When my dd (12) has a friend come with us (dd & I)  to anything, I find her friends attitude a bit disturbing to me.   My dd says it's because I'm "strict" that none of her friends wants to come over anymore.  Maybe it is me but I wanted your views on these examples:

1 )Freind #1 calls to see when we are coming to pick her up (my dd relay a  message from her cell).  We are running late so we tell her we are leaving now.  We live in the same neighborhood  so we arrive there in less than 5 min.  We get there and as always, my dd has to go get out to ring her door to get her.  I find it disturbing that if her friend is so impatient and calling , that I figured she would be outside waiting for us or at least peaking out the window to see when we drive up and save us the time to go get her. 

2) Friend #2 spent the night and the next morning she made omelet.  The next day, friend #1 spends the night and I ask if they could make breakfast that morning.  Apparently not.    My dd followed her attitude which I was not happy about.  Why I ask myself does my dd follow her friend's negative attitude.  It must be me or is it?  She  made omelets with friend #2.  I find that my dd is a better person when she's with friend #2 than #1.  My dd says I don't like her friend #1, which she maybe right. 

Does anybody have any insight or experience with your childrren liking a friend that you don't particularly don't like.  Friend #1 is not particularly a bad kid, it's just the little things I notice.  She doesn't remember or say "Thank you" .  She's slow to react when I tell them "come on"  or it's something they don't want to do.