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mhishon [1]
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Why are men such "visual" creatures???
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Fri, 08-10-2012 - 10:05am

Hi All,

First I wanted to post a brief update on my situation.  I'd posted about a bad landlord situation.......I gave her my notice and I am moving at the end of August, to a new (dog friendly) building.  First time in a building so hopefully I will avoid the crazy-person-upstairs syndrome!! lol. Wish me luck. :smileyhappy:  Move is in four weeks......all packed.

Anyhow, onto my real topic (I didn't want to post a personal update off topic that was so brief!!) but I'm wondering if you guys have experienced this also.  It seems to me that many guys will go for the "petite good looking" woman over anyone else, even though their personality/intellect may be severely lacking.

I guess there was a guy at the pub where I hang out.......he had often commented on how beautiful my hair is, etc. - we flirted a bit, etc. but it never went further than that (people often observed that they thought he was sweet on me).  At the time, he was hooked up with this girl who was basically totally weird (she actually got barred from the pub for calling the co-owner, who's a sweetheart, an @sshole to his face).  Anyhow.....he seemed to have gotten rid of her........

He has somehow now hooked up with a blonde woman who is a nurse.  Although she is not the type to work out all the time, she basically has a small frame and a pretty face.  Although she is (I'm guessing) in her 40s, she has moved back home and spends all kinds of money on outfits/manicures/pedicures, etc. (I get pedicures and waxing done, etc. but I don't bring it up as a conversation piece and I am more like once every three weeks/month vs. every week).  She also has a new coach bag every time I see her........

So I was at the pub last Friday and she was there with this guy.  OMG....it was embarrassing the way she was treating him!! Making him go and fetch things from the car, talking to him like he was a child.  She wanted to leave and he ordered another beer and she totally berated him in front of other people.  He looked perfectly happy - probably thinking how he was going to get laid that night!! lol.......but I figure it will be about a year before he figures out that this woman is essentially.......(I don't want to use the word!)........not a nice person.

Anyhow.......the conclusion could be made that I'm jealous, and I am a bit.  I didn't have a crush on this guy or anything, but I've been here all along, while he's managed to date two totally mean women.  I am moving too so I will likely not see this situation play out for much longer (thank goodness!!).

No insult to the men on here........I know not all men are shallow.......maybe it's pub guys (which I strongly suspect).  They seem to want that girl-who-looks-good-in-spandex, vs. the woman-who-will-treat-me-with-respect-and-kindness.  I'm sure there are women out there who are the same way.......

Hmmpph!! I think I am going to stay single forever........ :smileyhappy:

Cheers everyone,

Mel

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