Hi. I'm new to the boards but not to high school I have a DD 22 and a DS 19 and now my youngest DD 14, is starting high school this fall. When my oldest was approaching high school age my DH wanted her to attend a private college prep school rather than the local public high school even though she had never gone to private school before. He himself had gone to a very good college prep and felt that it made all the difference in how well he was prepared going from high school to college. We might have told her she had a choice in where she went but that we wanted her to go to a private school. Oldest DD wasn't keen on it but she was accepted for admission at a great school. She was always quiet, studious, and hard working. She found it in the end to be the right fit for her and it made a big difference in both her academic and spiritual growth. When it came time for DS to go to high school we debated on what would be the better choice for him. He'd always had good grades but struggled with test taking. Based on just his entrance exam scores alone he would not have been accepted if he hadn't had a sibling already there. He DID want to go there even though there were opportunities at public school that might have developed his artistic interests more. He struggled with high school in the beginning but he worked so hard and really developed the self discipline that he needed. He graduated in May and is going away to college in a couple of weeks.
Now we are on to the third going into high school. The youngest. The one who has always had a different mindset. She has always been the one who has had a bunch of friends and always put more interest into them than school. We have planned all along that she would go on to the same high school as her older siblings but she has always wanted to go to the public school. This issue presented itself time and again throughout middle school. She took the entrance exam for the private school in January and only squeaked by, being admitted because of her legacy status. Hoping to get her more interested in the private school we encouraged her to try out for a fall sports team there but she found out yesterday that she did not make the team. Whatever interest she did have at trying to give this school a go seems to be lost in her eyes at this point. She has begged me to not make her go there (yes she can be quite dramatic).
She does not talk to DH about this since she insists that he does not listen to her. She insists that I don't listen to her just because I haven't said OK you can go. I have suggested that the three of us sit down and talk together and told DH about this. I'm hoping to do this later today when DH gets home.
I really would like to see her have the same kind of experience that her siblings had at this school. She is bright and she has more potential than her efforts in middle school have shown. I want her to be happy and successful in school but I don't think that at this point she is going to put forth the effort to do well because she doesn't want to be there.
I'm just looking for some new perspective.