Now that he is caught, of course he is saying "the right things" and promising the world. My heart wants to believe, but I've been lied to for at least a year. My head says not to believe him.

From all I've been reading, he is coming from a place of fear. And, he has found himself on the couch alone. And, that he is no longer on my visa account. Not sure if he's found his atm card to joint accounts no longer works or not.

What have others found? Do these things work to wake him up? My fear is he will try to play me and repeat cycle again when I let down my guard.