I am so amazed by the judo gold medal winner, American Kayla Harrison, who publicly talked about being sexually abused by a judo coach as a child. I believe Kayla is 22 years old. Her former coach is in prison. I am amazed that she could publicly, to a newsperson, talk about this. Amazing young woman.
I think that in her case, her mother believed her. Her mother made sure the guy went to prison. She didn't sweep the issue under the rug and pretend her daughter was never hurt. She stood by her and also didn't let her quit judo. It would have been so easy for mom and daughter to both find reasons to give up and quit, but that didn't happen. Mom pushed her daughter to move forward and Kayla, reluctantly at first, did just that and never gave up. What a fighter.
Over the years in so many posts on this board and people I've spoken to in "real life" people have had family that never supported them when they told them they'd been sexually abused. Often times it's a family member, which causes conflict in the family as people feel they have to take sides (hard to believe anyone would take the side of an abuser over a child or adult who was abused as a child, but it happens a lot) and they too often choose to stay out of it, which gives the victim no support. In this case it was not a family member who abused Kayla so perhaps that made it "easier" (as if it's ever easy--it's not with SA) for mom to take steps to have this man put away.
Why don't family members do the same things to support SA victims? We were still children hurt by an adult. Isn't that enough for our families to support us and take action against our abuser? Sadly, that seems to rarely happen.
As for Kayla and her mother, they're both gold winners to me and that has nothing to do with judo.