How do I get my DW to not hold back on telling what her true fantazies are. For instance, I relly want to see her get picked up by another man at a bar and me being around to witness it but never actually letting the thing go past sexual intercourse. Just a little touching here and there but that's all. I have a hard time admitting this to her and chances are she holds back the same way I do. How do I get her to admit to me her true fantasies?